Impossible to be a ref so far as some fans are concerned. Send one off? Ludicrous, mad, ridiculous etc. Don't send another off? Ludicrous, mad, ridiculous etc. Cannot win.
Ah Van wasn't really being malicious but here's the thing, if you take a heavy and reckless swing and end up stiff-arming a player to the jaw and knocking him out then you risk getting sent off. The old chestnut "he's not that type of player" doesn't really help. Paddy deliberately had a swing and took the risk. It didn't pay off. If he hadn't connected then he wouldn't have been sent off but rightly the consequences of fould play have a bearing. He put Charnley out of the game.
Smith was petulant and embarrassing, but it was hardly a full-blooded kick, he made contact and the player just sort of skipped over it. I would have put it on report as it probably is worth a match ban but it was pathetic rather than much else.
Tomkins running in and pushing a man onto his arris is hardly a big deal. Players run in too much and this game had too many handbags but if you send off every player that comes running in and pushes another player then that would be half the teams.
Some of you have completely lost perspective.